Tuesday, 5 January 2010
Falling out....
For the last couple of years, at around this time, B and I have fallen out BIG time. To the extent that I have sworn to have nothing more to do with him, only to relent, a few weeks later. This year, I would quite like to avoid that drama in my life. I wonder if we can manage that? Today, I found myself being quite distant with him. Rejecting intimacy. And yet I was actually feeling very pleased to see him. So maybe I am just trying to break the pattern. hmmm.
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The psychologist in me wonders why this has traditionally been such a fraught time of year for you and B? Why does it keep happening at the same time? Is it situational or just a crummy pattern you've developed due to something like post-holiday let-down? I'm going "Hmmmm..." too!
ReplyDeleteMaybe you are needing to keep your distance simply because you are still feeling unwell. Otherwise, relationships seem to go in cycles with repeat patterns of behaviour so maybe this is just your pattern. Divorce lawyers know the post-Christmas period always provides a peak of new clients so it isn't just you two!
ReplyDeleteAh look you are back. That is good.
ReplyDeleteI don't know re the B situation. I think it is always a bit odd to see someone again when you haven't done so for a while and you've both been immersed in different worlds. And when the relationships is kind of, what's the word, well, one with no expectations or patterns of being, then it is hard really to know how to behave.
But what do I know?
Happy New Year anyway. And Carry On Blogging!
I am told that the divorce rate is high over chrismas for two reasons. One, that people spend more time than usual together, and can't stand it, and two, that that is when affairs tend to be 'discovered'!
ReplyDeleteI think in our case, we tend to fall out when we have NOT been spending time together, so maybe you have come closest to it Gina!